The journal.
I write about the things I see most in coaching sessions: fear, procrastination, transitions, the strange business of getting out of your own way. These articles are not motivational. They are practical, sometimes inconvenient, and built around the same questions that come up again and again in the work.
About this writing
I started writing these articles because clients kept asking me to put the things we discussed in sessions somewhere they could find them again. A lot of what happens in a coaching session is hard to hold onto. The specific insight you arrive at in minute forty-seven tends to evaporate by Tuesday. Writing, I thought, might help with that. Whether it does depends on the reader.
What I try to do here is different from most coaching writing. I am not trying to inspire you. I am not trying to give you a five-step framework for becoming your best self. I am trying to describe, as accurately as I can, the actual mechanics of the things that keep women stuck. The hope is that accurate description leads to better action than exhortation does. That has been true in my experience as a coach. I don't know if it's true in an article, but I'm testing it.
The writing is organised by topic below. The pieces are long because the topics are complicated. If you want a quick read, this is probably not the right website. If you want to think seriously about a problem that's been sitting on your desk for months, read on.
Topics I write about
Happiness
Not in the sense of finding your bliss. In the sense of what actually produces sustained wellbeing for women who have done a fair amount of life already. What's real, what's noise, and what the research says versus what works. Read the collection →
Hand Analysis
Hand analysis as a framework for self-understanding. Not fortune-telling. The fingerprint patterns that point toward life purpose, the hand markings that suggest specific soul gifts and life lessons. It is an unusual tool, and I use it carefully. Read the collection →
Overthinking
The mechanics of analysis paralysis, decision fatigue, and perfectionism as stalling tactics. Why smart women overthink most, and what actually breaks the loop. Read the article →
Boundaries
The guilt that follows boundary-setting, where it comes from, and how to hold a boundary anyway. Scripts for difficult conversations. What to do when the boundary doesn't stick. Read the article →
Rebuilding after change
Divorce, job loss, major moves, grief, empty nest. The shape of significant transition and how to navigate it practically rather than theoretically. Read the article →
Signs you might benefit from coaching
Not a sales pitch. An honest look at the five patterns that coaching reliably helps with, and the ones it doesn't. Useful reading before you decide whether to book. Read the article →
How to use this writing
Some people read one article because a friend linked it and they wanted to see if it was actually useful. Some people read through everything methodically. Some people read half an article, close the tab, come back a month later when a thing described in it is suddenly happening to them.
None of those is wrong. There is no required order. The articles don't depend on each other. You don't need to have read the overthinking piece before you read the boundaries piece. Read whatever's relevant to what you're sitting with right now.
If you find yourself reading an article and thinking "this is describing me exactly, and I have no idea what to do about it," that's a reasonable time to consider a discovery session. The articles are good at naming the problem. The sessions are better at finding the specific version of it that's yours and figuring out what to do about it.
New writing
I don't publish on a schedule. I write when I have something worth writing, which is roughly once every few weeks. The work doesn't allow for faster than that. If you want to know when something new is here, email me and I'll add you to the very small, very infrequently emailed list. No newsletter as such. Just an occasional note when there's something worth reading.